It is ok to not be ok all the time, isn’t it?

by Sandra Solano

[vc_row][vc_column css=”.vc_custom_1548794786584{background-position: center !important;background-repeat: no-repeat !important;background-size: cover !important;}”][vc_single_image image=”4079″ alignment=”center”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]When I’m teaching and facilitating, sometimes people are surprised when I share my personal struggles. They are part of my story, my growth, and my current success. I also share them because my objective is not to always be ok (whatever your definition of ‘ok’ is). Sometimes the fact that we notice we are not ok and knowing that we will be is the success.
Last Saturday, I felt drained and exhausted. Many other emotions rose and I was not “ok”. I became aware and chose to accept the torrent of emotions at the time. Accepting draining emotions and the vulnerability of feeling them provided me with the opportunity to practice something outside of my normal pattern: I asked for help! By sharing with a friend, who did an amazing job at listening through her heart, I realized that I was feeling how I felt every day just 4 years ago. At that time the world saw a perfect life and I was definitively not ok. The moment that I became aware that feeling this way felt strange and not normal I started feeling better. My new normal is so filled with joy, connection, authenticity, and love that feeling disconnected and alone was news to share!
Had I felt the obligation to be ‘ok’ and force calm or balance into my emotional experience, I would have lost the opportunity to practice vulnerability. I would have missed the celebration and appreciation of my growth, my friends, and my new skills. I trusted my heart’s guidance to allow me to experience not being ‘ok’ and because of that, I am doing great.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]